Looking Beyond Their Past

I know that I've previously written about love and relationships and whatnot. But I feel as if I've experienced more within the past 2 years. I do realize that 2 years isn't a long time at all, but it's all I've got so far. I have recently gotten to know someone close to me and I've gone through a weird experience that has happened before, but this time it was more of a realization than the previous times.

I don't really understand how people do it. Before you think I'm only talking about guys, I do firmly believe that girls do this, too. They choose a candidate of their liking and use them for their own personal pleasure (it doesn't have to be just sexual. It can also be taken into a psychological consideration), not thinking about how they feel about the other person at all. How is that possible? Yet, one (or both) of them can break the bond and go to a completely different person to get more of a satisfaction. They do this unconsciously and more frequently as if they have an addiction. 

At one point, however, someone they care about immensely will show up in their life. The difference between them and their multiple partners is the way they treat them as a person. Both can talk to each other about anything, whether it's about the past, present, or future. They trust each other for some reason and neither one can figure it out. Neither one judges them by their past (which is the biggest accomplishment any human being in our era can do, in my opinion) because what you do in the present that sets up your future is what's important. It's more than a friendship, and everyone around them can see how happy the two are together.

But here is the plot twist... Only one of them can see this happening. The other can't change for the better. They choose to make their past become their present and, possibly, their future. They can't see that this particular person just might be the best thing that has ever happened to them in their life. I mean, when does an opportunity like this happen? Once, maybe twice, in a lifetime? Subconsciously they want to change part of what they're doing to stay in that person's life forever. But something is telling them that they can't so, unfortunately, they don't. It's human nature to stay in the comfort zone. The fear of future rejection or change in lifestyle can play a key role in this person's life, which is understandable. Or maybe it's because they don't want to change just yet. They enjoy their current lifestyle so much that they wouldn't give it up for anything or anyone. Either way, the other person isn't going to wait around forever and both have an initial understanding of that. In fact, they might be moving on right at this very moment. They have waited long enough and now realize that they can't do anything more to make you see what they see. Or maybe they didn't do enough and can't think of anything else to help you out.

Now before you, the reader, blow up my phone or inbox asking me who the Hell I'm talking about that has treated me this way, I want you to consider something:

Have you stopped reading to think that the addicted friend hurting the other person is the writer herself?

Think about it,
Allison