Making Decisions: Heart vs. Mind
Someone told me a while back, "Ally, I don't know what to do. I know that love him but I can't help thinking that maybe we just aren't good for each other. Should I follow my heart? Or just let my mind do the work." Okay, what this person said was something along those lines. These questions are the most frequently asked when times are bad in relationships. As I said once before, I've never had a boyfriend. Ever. I was definitely close to this one guy towards the end of my high school career, but it ended up not working out at all (I'm still pissed about it, too...). But it's kind of funny when you think about them as a whole. You would've expected a straight up answer to one of them from me, but you're not getting one. Sorry, read a different post. Read on if you want to know the true meaning behind the answer.
Thank you for continuing on. At least someone has the decency of hearing what I have to say. In my honest opinion, you can't have just one organ making all of the decisions for you. Both coincide with one another. Why? Think about it for a second. Your heart sets your emotions for that person, but your mind helps make the practical decisions for it. If you've only known the person for 3 weeks and already "kind of" developed feelings but can't exactly express them because the other person doesn't show the same for you? There's no point. Listen to your mind. After four months of continuously liking a person, you are psychologically in love with them. Then would be the time to follow your heart, with keeping your mind, well, in mind (make sure they have some understanding of your existence though... that would be really weird if they didn't and you all of a sudden shout, "I LOVE YOU! MARRY ME AND HAVE MY BABIES!" right in their face).
What I'm trying to say is that both are technically correct, but in moderation and depending on the situation you are in. If you truly love someone and they truly love you (assuming they hurt you in someway or you hurt them), you should always follow what's best for you. If you are being physically abused (or have been in the past by that same person) and you love them emotionally? I'm sorry but you need to follow your mind and leave this person immediately and seek some help. However, if it's just that your friends or family don't find them "right for you", screw them. Follow your heart and make decisions for you and only you. They don't know how to make you as happy as you are with your significant other. At the end of the day, it's all on you. Not anyone else.
Believe in both,
Allison
Thank you for continuing on. At least someone has the decency of hearing what I have to say. In my honest opinion, you can't have just one organ making all of the decisions for you. Both coincide with one another. Why? Think about it for a second. Your heart sets your emotions for that person, but your mind helps make the practical decisions for it. If you've only known the person for 3 weeks and already "kind of" developed feelings but can't exactly express them because the other person doesn't show the same for you? There's no point. Listen to your mind. After four months of continuously liking a person, you are psychologically in love with them. Then would be the time to follow your heart, with keeping your mind, well, in mind (make sure they have some understanding of your existence though... that would be really weird if they didn't and you all of a sudden shout, "I LOVE YOU! MARRY ME AND HAVE MY BABIES!" right in their face).
What I'm trying to say is that both are technically correct, but in moderation and depending on the situation you are in. If you truly love someone and they truly love you (assuming they hurt you in someway or you hurt them), you should always follow what's best for you. If you are being physically abused (or have been in the past by that same person) and you love them emotionally? I'm sorry but you need to follow your mind and leave this person immediately and seek some help. However, if it's just that your friends or family don't find them "right for you", screw them. Follow your heart and make decisions for you and only you. They don't know how to make you as happy as you are with your significant other. At the end of the day, it's all on you. Not anyone else.
Believe in both,
Allison
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