Trusting the Confidence

I was given this topic on my Instagram: "people you should never trust". I kind of thought over this one for a good five minutes while sitting on my bed just now. The word "confidence" popped into my mind. 

The ones you should only trust are those who give you confident answers. But what do I know, right? I'm probably the most criticized person in the world and I still find myself crying from a harsh answer. But let's say you go shopping with 2 of your closest friends. You find this adorable dress in a store (and it's in your price range!) and you go to try it on while your friends wait patiently to give you the thumbs-up or thumbs-down. As you put on the dress, you look in the mirror. A smile crosses your face. It's perfect. You waltz out and twirl around giddily and one friend shakes her head in approval, freaking out on how amazing you look. Except the other one. She scowls at you and shrieks, "UGH! That is the most hideous dress I have ever seen on you! You look god-awful!". Slowly that smile fades into a frown as you walk back in the fitting room. You face the mirror once more as a tear slowly stains your left cheek (the first tear that starts on the left side is from pain/sadness). She's right, you think to yourself. I look so ugly. I knew I wasn't pretty. If she hates it, then the rest of the world does, too. How could I have think I actually looked good? At that last glance towards the mirror, you start removing the once oh-so-perfect dress. You return it to the lady at the dressing room table. "WHY DIDN'T YOU GET IT?!", the one girl exclaims. "I took a look at it again and it didn't feel right", you respond, obviously lying. You walk out of the store empty-handed, and most definitely broken-hearted. I wish she could have let me down a lot easier... 

Everyone, the message here is to never give in to that other person. If you let one negative person control your world, then they can't be trusted no matter what. But that also means you have very low self-esteem. Who cares what other people think? If you wore that dress and felt like a rock star, then rock-out that dress! The only one stopping you is, in fact, you. You can't assume that people are going to be judging you all the time out in the real world. And if they do, here's something you can do. Since ignoring can just leave you over-thinking, turn to them, smile and wave, and yell in the most perkiest attitude, "I'm happy, you're not. Have fun with your miserable, judgmental life!" and skip delightfully away down the street. They obviously need a reality check with their own life. Frank Lero once said, "If you are true to yourself, you can never go wrong." Trusting those who give you positive reinforcement makes a more confident you. But those who make you inferior, won't. Remember, confidence is key! I definitely need to start taking my own advice.

Stay true to you,

Allison